Black Girl Workouts
Apr 6, 20203 min
It happened, and it was REAL. However, don't dwell on it because that is not your truth. It's time to DECIDE to let go of your “story”.
Don't blame yourself or anyone else for your life from this point on. Refrain from seeing yourself as a victim because you are not one. Haboring negative feelings regarding the past will only cause YOU harm.
Because they (whomever they may be) have moved on. Don't hold onto the pain, because they have let it go, so why can't you?
Understand that;
It's not the actual events that took place that are creating your pain, but a story that you have been holding onto which is draining you and creating so much pain in your life; filling you with so much resentment and anger that you are unable to focus or benefit from anything remotely good that comes along.
Once you naturally get to a point where you are able to be open with your story and can outwardly observe it, IT IS THEN that you can release that story and fully let it go.
Now that we have released that story,
Forgiveness is an essential step in this healing process. This could mean forgiveness of yourself, or forgiveness of people who have wronged you. By forgiving, in no way are you saying it was okay. What happened was not okay. You are simply forgiving for you and to release yourself of that burden.
Say to yourself, “Even though these things happened, I am no longer willing to hold on to that pain. I deserve to be happy and to thrive despite of what I've gone through”
The decision not to let your past define you, determine who you are as a person, and who you will become. This is where your freedom lies. This is how you can set your heart free.
Purify your life by releasing relationships that influence that old pattern and your old story. You don't want any parts of that anymore. Let go of all behaviors that do not correlate with the new life that you are manifesting and want to live. It's time to promote positive actions, positive behaviors, and positive relationships.
What you’re essentially doing is creating a new foundation. You need to have solid ground to stand on.
This space is necessary in order to,
All this time, you've been so used to believing certain things about yourself, certain situations, and even other people. It's time to change the narrative, and rewrite your life. The truth is, your book isn't finished. You can't go back and rewrite certain pages, but you can fill the rest of them in the way you feel it should be written.
One way that you can begin to recode and change this way of thinking is through prayer and affirmations;
There is persistance in prayer. Prayer allows you to lay aside all hinderances and focus on what matters and what is important.
If prayer is not for you try out some affirmations;
"I am writing my new story"
"I am worthy of my new self respect"
"I will demonstrate and live from my own self love"
"I expect this in all of my experiences"
Don't fall back into that unhealthy pattern and have to do the work all over again. Honor yourself and take care of yourself. Treat yourself well and your life will begin to reflect that same treatment. Treat your mind well, your body well, your stuff well, just TAKE CARE.
Health is Wealth,
xo Darian